IN THE NEWS: Will your partner find out if you’ve been on a love cheat website?Posted: December 4, 2011
Cheating wives and husband who’ve gone online to search for a partner to flirt with – or to have an affair with – have been warned their search might not be private after all…
Yes, you can still delete the search history on the family computer. But, a report in The Sunday Times claims some sites will actually alert all your friends and family on Facebook that you have gone on the site.
The article cites Badoo.com, a dating website it claims is known for casual encounters because it encourages users to ‘chat, flirt, meet up and have fun.’
At Badoo you do not have to join – all you have to do is input your email address and Badoo will automatically inform friends you are on there.
Trainee Solicitor Will, 29, told how he was embarrassed the site told his contacts he was a member. He signed up a while ago when it was billed as the ‘new Facebook’ but then forgot about it. But recently he received a call from his girlfriend asking why he was on it – and shocked that he was.
Another person recalls how he discovered his girlfriend had joined when the site sent a automated message to his work email inviting him to join her. He then created a fake profile on the site and she began talking to him. She said she was single and gave a new phone number she had. He later confronted her…
The Sunday Times article reveals a recent poll of 85,000 Badoo members revealed 59% had met someone they first contacted via the site and 30% admit they met for sex.
And a 2009 study ranked Badoo out of 45 social websites as the worse for privacy. It scored 23% while LinkedIn scored 70% and Facebook 53%.
The report adds Badoo profiles come up in Google searches so without signing in you can see a photo of someone who might be advertising for ‘no strings sex.’
However, one consultant who specialises in online dating says Badoo’s relaxed approach to privacy is the way social media sites are going. “One of the features of dating sites has always been privacy,” he says, “but there are advantages to people knowing who you are. The best way to meet people is through friends of friends – social dating – and that is what Badoo is trying to emulate.”
Meanwhile, Badoo says members can adjust their privacy settings accordingly and says it is not a site promoting sexual encounters. “We are not pretending that the sexual element does not exist; we are a meeting network for adults and their interactions reflect human behaviour in real life.”
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